Yesterday was Mr Omy’s wedding. The poly (polytechnic) friend whose wedding i mentioned that i was invited to some posts ago. The guy whom i said was so eligible that i would marry if i liked guys. Or was that Mr How?
The invitation was addressed to Master Wong (no, not my army rank). The sitting list had me on it as Master Wong. So i suspect that Mr Omy doesn’t know my name at all. Oh well..
The wedding was at Orchid Country Club’s Grand Ballroom. When one reads the words grand ballroom, one would think that it’s just a fancy name for a normal ballroom. Like King’s Ballroom or something like that.
So i entered the ballroom and i was like omg, grand was a descriptive word. The ballroom was huge, with a circle balcony as the second level.
I’ve seen 20 tables in a ballroom and every nook and corner of the room would be filled. Chairs would knock with chairs from another table. The Grand Ballroom had 76 (Mr Omy is rich sia..) tables and there is enough space to drive a buggy to the stage.
Which the bride and groom did. Well, they didn’t drive, someone else drove while they stood in it, waving to the guests. Imagine the job of the SG president and you’ll know what i mean.
This wedding dinner, like big sis YyY’s wedding dinner, was fun. It was like a poly gathering! Faces i hadn’t seen in ten years suddenly appeared. Some rounder (guys), others slimmer (girls).
I’ll do a long almost-digression here, coz Mr How requested for some blog content. Every now and then, when i go running, along the way, i would see this girl in missy uniform walking in a direction opposite from mine. I had a vague idea that she might be my poly classmate, but she never seem to show any recognition beyond mere glances.
So it was, i’ve been running pass this girl several times at different hours of the day over the span of the year, coz she being a missy has shift hours and me being me had all hours of the day to run.
Until i decided one day that the next time i run toward the girl, i would call out the name of my poly classmate to see if the girl would actually respond.
I didn’t bump into her again after i made up my mind to do the afore-mentioned.
Until Mr Omy’s wedding that is. I approached Ms Qy and said, “我每次跑步的时候会看到一个很相你的女孩, 那个是你吗”. I thought it pretty spiffy of me to be able to convey the exact intent of my query in a single stream of words.
Obtw, Ms Qy and the girl i saw in the street, they’re the same. So i told Ms Qy to say hi to me the next time she sees me running toward her, lol.
There were two girls at our table, Ms Qy and Ms Lixia. We were in engineering back in poly after all. Not a hot favourite for girls back then. Both married. Ms Lixia changed alot. Slimmed down a-huge-lot.
I’ve always liked Ms Lixia. She’s a rather friendly person and was about the only girl who actually talks to me in poly. And she wasn’t even in the same class.
Disclaimer for the previous paragraph. Please do not let romantic interests take monopoly of the word like.
Oh wait.. there were three girls at our table. The third girl is the wife of one of the guys.
At the table, i was thinking about what to say if one of them decides to ask me what i was doing. I was thinking of self-employed post-beta stress-tester specializing in the computer gaming industry. I work long hours from around 7am/9am to 1am+ at night.
Fortunately, no one asked me. Or no one asked me directly that is.
For my referencing. Mr Teddy work brings him around. No idea what he does. His wife is a missy too. Mr Philip is getting married next year. ROM in Jan. Wedding in mid-year. Mr How’s wedding is year after next. Ms Lixia works in a bank, don’t remember which bank. She is on the server-side. Mr Xinwei is on the project-side.
P.S. Can someone who reads my blog please tell Mr Omy that i want the photograph of our table? I think that would be only Mr How, lol.
Miss Icy Cool, marry me !! You know my marriage proposal to that random girl in the previous post was in jest.
Get married for wat? Being single and financially independent is so much much better than getting married.
Buy your own house if you got the money and you can do whatever you want to that house without the need to waste your time and energy to “convince” the other party wat you going to do with the house.
Find a partner who live in the same type of house and living condition as your parent. Observe how the other party live in their house before you married him/her. If she/he is a messy type and you are organize type… then better find another partner.
This thoery will save you alot of problem and headache.
You will live happier.
Hmm..
Make that HMMM dot dot dot.
Getting married does not result in a single person becoming financially dependent. Of course, there are people who marry in hopes of becoming financially dependent. There are also people who deprives the spouse of financial independence after marriage by controlling all the finances of the spouse (think spouse who says “your money is my money”).
In any case, unless the spouse insist on depriving me of my financial independence (in which case i wouldn’t have married her, or if i did, i would divorce her), marrying shouldn’t cause me to become financially dependent.
With almost all marriages in SG, as dictated by conventional SG dream, getting married would entail buying of house (you can only buy house in SG, never a home), which in the case of SG, would result in paying exorbitant sums for something that you wouldn’t end up owning and resulting with ten to thirty year’s of debt. In which case, getting married would likely cause one to be financially burdened.
So maybe you meant financial burden rather than financial independence.
While it is financially unsound to get married in SG, unless the spouse also have a like-mind of not wanting to go into lifelong debt by buying a house, however, it is nice to have someone to share bits and pieces of my life with, to grow together, travel together, and of course, have lots of sex with. So despite the threat of debt, getting married still seems like something wonderful for the hopeless romantic likes of me.
As to having to waste time and energy to convince in double quotes the spouse.. really, i have no solution to that. I guess it is all about compromise and that BOTH spouse have to give in every now and then.
As to organized and messiness.. sometimes i’m organized, sometimes i’m messy. Of course, most people can’t see my way of organizing things and tend to label me as messy, lol. So i think i might be ok with either kind of spouse. The neat spouse will just have to tahan with my untidiness, lol.
In any case, i do subscribe to your “Observe how the other party live in their house” strategy. In my case, it would be best to determine if the potential spouse would have sex with me before marriage. If she doesn’t then i think a sex-less marriage might be more likely to occur. Which i think would be kind of sad..
Ok, that’s was rather lengthy comment.
Answer to para 1. Mr How
Answer to last third para. HSBC
Posted a wall message to omy on ur request for the photograph.
^.^ Thanks