Couple months ago, with too much time on his hands, LB decided to look for some activity to do, besides gaming and reading that is. He decided to pick up photography.
Searching online, he found a thread in a forum where someone was organizing a photo shoot. The shoot was getting several photographers and several others to be models.
The highly anti-social LB quickly become enamoured with socializing and got round to hanging out with this groupie, drinking in the companionship like it was some drug. With this groupie, we would organize a photo shoot, and then hang out later for drinks or movies or something.
Anyway, among this groupie, there’s a rather sweet looking girl whom LB felt rather attracted to. He hit upon an idea and told the rest of the groupie that he would suggest going for a movie. Then everyone would wait for the girl to agree to the movie before saying that they were busy that day. Pretty clever of me huh.
Alas, that was the first of the many dates to come.
Anyway, last night, LB gave the girl a call to ask her to marry him. The girl hesitates and says she needed time to think it over.
She called LB today, and OMG !! I’m getting married !!
But of course, i must remind my readers that I have neither a camera nor am any good with photography. The whole story is utterly fictional and imaginary; the love story came to me during my run just now and i improvised as i typed it out.
The thing peculiar about this love story is that whenever i imagine myself falling in love, it always begins with some kind of regular non-dating activity. Hmm.. i wonder why this is so.
that’s how ppl meet right, through some non-dating activity, hobbies, trips, work, school, people related to people you know, party, drinking sessions etc
unless u go out thru a 3rd party with the intention “this is a date”
so the photography outing is fiction too?
Hmm.. meeting people for non-dating activity regularly is not a very common thing for me. What seems more likely to me is to meet only a couple times for non-dating activity and then moving on to dating activity.
But of coz, we need to define dating activity. Dating activity as i define would be an activity where two persons get together with atleast one of them viewing the activity as exploration of the possibility of romantic interest.
So what i was saying was that i always imagine myself to be in a scenario of two persons meeting regularly with the unintended consequence of falling in love gradually and mutually; such that the eventual pairing off is a realization and admission, a discovery that one has already fallen in love.
But it seems to me that this is not a very frequent case. Often, it involves the active pursuit of one party with the intent of causing (or providing the opportunity for causing) the other to fall in love with the self.
And yet again, there’s some sort of question begging fallacy involved in what i’m saying. Because there can be no point in time where one can say that a person has sufficiently “fall in love gradually” to begin dating pursuit. Gradually is such a relative word after all.
I could crap on and argue with myself indefinitely, but let’s not bore you and proceed with the next question.
Yes, the whole photography outing is fiction too.
So what i was saying was that i always imagine myself to be in a scenario of two persons meeting regularly with the unintended consequence of falling in love gradually and mutually; such that the eventual pairing off is a realization and admission, a discovery that one has already fallen in love.
- i actually do think that this is frequent, or maybe cos i know at least one couple. if it’s infrequent, but if the whole mtg-regularly-w-a-girl part happens to u, i am positive there is a 95% chance the 2nd part will happen too.
Out of curiosity, do i know the couple (even if only by name) you mentioned?
Sooo.. you think guys and girls can’t be close friends without falling in love? Or rather, only 5% of guys and girls can meet regularly without falling in love?
i do not think i have ever mentioned them to u before to u before, or if i have certainly not my name. prob say in a “i had a friend” manner
only 5% of guys and girls can meet regularly without falling in love? – yeah i do agree.
Soo.. hypothetically speaking.. If a person believes that (a guy and a girl hanging out regularly would have a high probability of falling in love) and does hang out regularly with someone, would you consider said person to be unfaithful, given the belief said person has and he/she continues to provide the opportunities for falling in love with someone else.
In lieu of such considerations, should a person, with such a belief, stop (or make less frequent rather) regular interactions with people of a competing gender as the partner, less said-person should accidentally fall in love (with high probability) with someone other than the partner, in a gesture of good faith for remaining faithful, once said-person becomes attached.
Doesn’t it become kind of a problem for bisexual individuals? There would be no clear competing gender and the only conclusion is that a bisexual cannot have close friends once they become attached monogamously.